I love social media for staying in touch. One of my good friends’ sister who lives in Germany asked on Facebook if anyone wanted to join her for Oktoberfest? Yes. Please.
So, ten days out I plan this awesome trip. Since she lives in the area, she had great ideas for what we should do with the highlight being Oktoberfest in Munich.
Unbeknownst to me, her husband has all of these guy friends from Chicago who make this trip every year. So, when we got to the big tent with steins of beer, it was not only filled with people who speak English, but Chicagoans! Lucky me!
I meet all of the people and the majority were married but I was happy to be in their company. One guy started paying very close attention to me. He was married but we were in similar industry(s) so we had that in common. He couldn't believe I wasn't married and kept asking about what I like to do for fun, etc. He was so perplexed as to why I am single (which I never know how to answer that). I said, I know, it is the 8th wonder of the world.
We talked about Hawaii, the Bears, etc. Since he was a big deal with a major airline, he said he wanted to upgrade me to first class for my return trip. I told him I didn't need that but appreciated the offer. I believe my indifference intrigued him further. I have been in the game too long to think that wouldn’t come with strings attached.
He said he would like to keep in touch with me when we get back and I truly didn't think anything of it, so we exchanged numbers.
Well, as you could imagine, at Oktoberfest with ppl buying lots of beer all night, it became crazy so a small group of us decided to leave and go to a bar. I don't even say good bye to the airline guy, I just snuck out.
That night I receive an email from him saying he can't wait to go to Hawaii with me. Huh? Did I mention he is married? I said to him, I don't know what you are talking about, but it was nice to meet you.
Once I get back to the states, he starts emailing and texting me. Since I have season tickets for Bears games, he said he wanted to tailgate with me. I told him I couldn't do that so he said he wanted to invite me to the United Club at the game. I told him it was on the other side of the stadium and I wasn't interested. He then asked if I wanted to go with him and his buddy for a drink after the game. It occurred to me that maybe his buddy is single, and he wants to set me up with him? So, I agreed to meet for a drink. What an optimist I am.
Sure enough, we get to the bar and his buddy is married. WTH? So, I make small talk with them and head on my way. What I found odd is he has two kids in the burbs along with his wife but has a condo in the city as an investment. Yeah. Right. Sell that crazy elsewhere, we are all full here.
So, he starts texting me again saying when we go to Oktoberfest again next year and I said, we? He said, yes, you can come as part of the program. I said, I would never go on vacation with a married man. He said, it is no problem, his wife would be fine with it.
Then, he asks me to go to dinner, lunch, etc. and I keep turning him down. Finally, he said, will you go to the symphony with me? We could have a great night of dinner and dancing. I said, you know I am not sure what gave you the impression that I am that girl, but I am most definitely not. I have no interest in a married man. He said, I know you are not that girl, it is why I like you.
Now, apparently, he is a slow learner. I said, I am not going to a symphony or anything similar with you. That is something you take your wife to. Wait for it, he said my wife doesn't understand me and doesn't like hanging out with me much.
I said, well, sounds like you should put your energy towards fixing that instead of talking to me. Boom. I told him not to contact me again.
Lesson learned? It is amazing the double life some of these guys lead but if they will do it with you, they will do it to you. Not for me.
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