This guy emails me from match.com and starts a fun dialogue. He seemed nice enough and followed some basic online dating rules. The most important one to me is he commented on something in my profile and didn’t just send a generic note. People who have that cut and paste feel are a turn off. I know they just throw everything on the wall to see what sticks.
Anyway, I could quickly decipher that he was in sales which was evident in the way he spoke (takes one to know one, ha). He lived in a very far suburb so I wasn’t that excited about starting something new with someone so far away. City people learn very quickly that there is typically a reason why someone isn't living in the city. They are more comfortable in the 'burbs. It can definitely become a hassle down the road.
Besides that, I had just started dating someone else so I told him I wasn’t interested in meeting someone new at this time. I didn't want to juggle multiple guys. Which, in retrospect, is probably a mistake. As a sales person, I know you should keep your funnel full until there is a clear connection.
He asked if he could follow up with me in a week or so to see how things were going with the other guy? I said, sure. Well, you guessed it, almost to the second, he e-mails one week later to see if I was interested yet.
I felt like he set a calendar appointment to follow up like you would a business deal.
Anyway, I told him I was still dating someone. He then proceeds to e-mail a couple more times and we have general dialogue.
During this process, he asks where I work. Thinking nothing of it, I tell him I work at a hotel. Now, being a city girl and all, I should know better to let my guard down.
About a week later, I receive a call from our concierge’s desk saying someone is at the hotel to see me. As I was on the phone, I can hear him saying, tell her it is the guy from match.com. UGH!
Unfortunately, he knows she connected with me as he was standing in front of her.
I couldn't believe this guy just shows up during a work day? Doesn’t call or anything? Creepy and almost stalker like.
I definitely did not appreciate the drop by but also did not want to put our Concierge’s in a tough spot by having her do my dirty work for me.
I walk up to the lobby and he tells me he was in the area, I said, really? Where were you? He tells me he was about 30 minutes away which is hardly in the area as far as I am concerned.
Anyway, he wants to take me to lunch. I told him I was busy.
He asked if I was still dating someone, I said yes. (a slow learner). He did not receive a warm reception from me.
Can you imagine this guy is pretty much cold calling dates? Nope, Not for me.
Lesson learned? If you have a feeling he could be stalker-like, cut all ties immediately. And, be careful when giving out personal information when you don't know someone very well!
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