While we are in lockdown, I have been busy organizing and doing all of the mundane tasks that I put off for a rainy day. Shockingly, I have been pleasantly surprised with some treasures I have found. This is one of them.
I believe about 30 years ago (give or take), my Mom cut this article out for me from the Chicago Tribune. As you can see, it is a bit weathered. I chuckled reading it now and thought you would get a kick out of it too!
Which tips still hold up today? So many of them in my opinion!
You probably won't find Mr. Right in a bar. Try grocery stores, church, where you work or through a friend.
If he tells you he is married, he's separated or his wife doesn't understand him - he has TROUBLE stamped on his forehead.
If he tried to move in with you or wants to borrow money, be careful. He maybe be a con artist.
If his family doesn't like him and avoids him, maybe you should too. They know him better than you do.
Check out his car. It should be clean, serviceable and insured.
If he has children, decide it you want to marry them, too, because that is the way it will be. And, be aware that they are a direct link to his ex-wife.
You don't need a man to be a complete woman. Choose the man - don't let him choose you. Be selective. No one has the power to make you happier than the right man or more miserable than the wrong one.
Find someone who laughs at the same things you laugh at. A shared sense of humor will make the good times better and the bad times less difficult.
If you want several children and plan to stay home and raise them, choose a man whose skills and education will put him in a high salary category.
If you want a career, don't marry a man who hates his job. He will resent the time and attention you give to yours.
Two red flags: Does he have a short fuse and a hot temper? Is he hung up on his mother? There are two negatives that inevitably get worse after marriage. Both can be disastrous.
Don't get married because you are afraid to be alone. No wife is more alone than one whose husband pays no attention to her.
No matter how wonderful his other qualities may be, do not marry a man who has threated, hit or humiliated you. In fact, don't go out with him a second time. Such a man is hazardous to your emotional and physical health and should be avoided like the plague.
Pay attention to how he treats his mother. Chances are good that he will treat you the same way.
Lesson Learned? When I read this article years ago, one of the 14 tips was seared into my memory. It was # 12. Til this day, I think of it all the time: Don't get married because you are afraid to be alone. No wife is more alone than one whose husband pays no attention to her. Amen.
I think you need to start a podcast! Your wisdom is what the world needs now!!