I met someone at a baby shower who said she committed to 100 dates online. She felt pretty confident that somewhere within all of those dates, a relationship would develop. And, she was right! She married a guy around date 50.
She said it was a game of numbers and I thought to myself, I should be doing that. So, I started keeping track of my online dates with a goal to get to 100. I'm in Sales, I like goals, so this seemed like a good fit.
Here was date #1
Initial stats: 45 years old, never been married, lives in the burbs, owns a family business, seems funny.
I was so excited about this guy! On paper, he was everything I was looking for. We decided to talk on the phone before we met and had a very nice conversation.
During our phone call, he said he would love to go out. I said, great. He asked for my full name and I tell him. He then said, what did you say your last name was? I repeated. He then said, that is weird, that is my Mom’s maiden name. Uh oh, are we related?
We joked and fortunately figured out we weren’t related. Since we were talking names, I told him what my Mom's maiden name was . He then said, WOW, that is my middle name. This is meant to be. Let's go!
He then picks a place (took charge, which I love) and it was a cool wine bar. We meet in person and my first reaction was, he was little. I had no idea how little he was, but I towered over him. Little is not a word that I envision using to describe my guy. As shallow as that sounds.
I decided I could maybe get over that but in person, there was absolutely no chemistry. Not sure where it went but there was no witty banter and it was kind of blah. Actually, I would describe it as painful. I felt like I worked that day until 9:30pm. Never a good way to describe a date.
So, at the end of the night, he did pay but doesn’t get me a cab or offer to drive me home. This for sure is a pet peeve of mind. And, not surprising, it was an awkward goodbye.
He said he would love to go out again some time. I agreed. And we both were lying.
On to the next date.
Lesson Learned? You have to play to win, but, it is very easy to get burnt out with such an overwhelming goal. Spoiler alert, I didn't make it past date #7 for this new strategy.
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