Every year I take 3 of my best guy friends and we go to a Bears game. It is always one of our most favorite days of the year as we have all been friends since college.
We start the day at my friends’ house for a tailgate and continue to the game. The one challenge with this day is that these guys have a heavy hand when pouring our Bloody Mary's. Today was no different. Such the victim I am! 😉
We get to the game and it is freezing so we are all bundled up. At half time, we all decide to go to the bathroom. Now, my seats are so high up, so you definitely need to plan the trips sparingly and we usually travel together.
As you would expect from a typical football game, the line for the guys bathroom is very long and there is a shorter line for the girls. So, we all go to our respective lines. We never made a plan to meet after, but I assumed we would bump into each other to walk back up.
As I am waiting for them outside of the bathroom, a group of guys call me over. They say, what is your story? I told them a little bit about me and said I am waiting for friends. They said, are you married? I said, nope, single as a dollar bill. We end up talking for about a half hour (unbeknownst to me, my guy friends went back to our seats!).
They said, we are all married but, do you see that guy over there? He is single and we want you two to date. He is our friend and we want you to be in our circle.
I was really flattered by the suggestion, so I agreed to the introduction. He asked for my card and I gave it to him, and found my way back to my seats.
Now my phone starts blowing up with texts from him. I told him I appreciate the shout out but today is for my guy friends. We can go out another time.
So, later that week he asks if we could go out to dinner. I said, sure. Now, I don't know one thing about this guy. Don't even know where he lives. He picks a restaurant in the West Loop.
I get to the restaurant and would you believe he is a half hour late? On a first date? Irritating. And, the restaurant he chose is packed. I am assuming he made reservations, but we are so late I was worried the table was given away!
He calls me to say he is running even later and he asked if I put our name in for a table? I said, I thought you would have made a reservation? Nope. Strike one.
I told him it was very crowded so he said maybe we should go somewhere else. I agreed. He said, I will pick you up.
This is where it gets tricky as I don't even know this dude, and, now I am getting in a car with him? Not a fan of it but wasn’t sure what else to do.
So, we decide to go to Greektown and do find a great restaurant. I say to him, you know, the guy is supposed to be 5 minutes early and the girl is supposed to be 5 minutes late. He said, sorry, traffic is bad. I said, right, it is Friday night. Geesh, welcome to the big city!
We sit down and his lecture begins. He is a musician, the best, just ask him. He is so good that he could have played in the band, The Police. Sting really liked his ability to play drums, allegedly.
His favorite thing to do is to go camping. He said he isn't sure why he even brings a tent, he is never in it. He just likes to sit by the campfire and play his guitar all night.
I ask him what he does for a living? You guessed it, his career is a musician and a song writer, this isn’t a hobby.
I ask how that is for a career? He said great, he lives in his Dad's basement and has a lot of flexibility.
Meanwhile, he hasn't asked one question about me, not one. About half way through dinner I couldn't take it any longer. I said, has anyone told you, you talk a lot? He said, yes, all the time. I said, well it is true. He laughed and continued with the second half of his lecture to me.
He thought we had a great night and wanted to take me to Buddy Guy's restaurant because of course he knows him and can play with him up on stage.
No thank you. I said, we really don't have much in common. He was surprised I felt that way. I was surprised he was surprised!
Lesson learned? You need more than both being single to make it work. And, try to prequalify your dates a little. It will save some time and free up a Friday night.
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